This or That questions for couples

This or That is the simplest couples game there is: two options, and you each have to pick one. The good pairs are the ones where there is no obviously right romantic answer, so the pick actually tells your partner something.

Every question below comes from the we2gether This or That deck. The sweet ones are for a quiet night in, the cheeky ones for when you are feeling brave. In the app the two of you answer in private and the picks reveal together, with a compatibility percentage at the end.

120 on this page, 644 in the app

How to use them

  1. Read a question aloud and both answer at the same time, on three. No changing your answer once you hear theirs.
  2. When you split, ask why. The disagreements are the whole point.
  3. Keep a tally if you like, but the score matters less than the conversation.

Sweet

Gentle, affectionate, the kind you can ask on a first weekend away.

  1. You reach for my hand first, or I reach for yours first?
  2. A forehead kiss before I even wake, or A shoulder squeeze when I am stressed?
  3. Your fingers tracing my spine, or Your thumb rubbing circles on my hand?
  4. You tuck my hair behind my ear, or You fix my collar before we leave?
  5. A hug that lasts too long on purpose, or A quick squeeze that says everything?
  6. You steal the blanket and pull me in anyway, or You give up the blanket and stay cold?
  7. Falling asleep with your head on my chest, or Falling asleep with our backs touching?
  8. You hold my hand in the car for no reason, or You rest your hand on my knee while driving?
  9. A kiss on the top of my head, or A kiss on my knuckles?
  10. You wrap around me like a koala, or You just want our feet touching?
  11. Piggyback rides for no reason, or Slow dancing in the kitchen for no reason?
  12. You pull me back to bed for five more minutes, or You let me sleep in and make the coffee?
  13. Your hand finds mine crossing a busy street, or Your arm around me in a crowded lift?
  14. You play with my fingers when we talk, or You trace shapes on my back before sleep?
  15. Hearing you say my name softly, or Hearing you laugh at your own joke?
  16. You say I love you first, every time, or You say it back like you mean it?
  17. You whisper goodnight, even on a bad day, or You text good morning, even when flat out?
  18. Hearing your voice crack when you are moved, or Hearing you go quiet when you are moved?
  19. You call to say nothing much, or You call just to hear about my day?
  20. You say we will figure it out, or You say take your time, I am not going anywhere?
  21. You tell me I am your favourite person, or You never have to tell me, I just know?
  22. You remember the story I told you once, or You remember the small thing that upset me?
  23. You say sorry first, or You say let us not go to bed angry?
  24. Your voice on the phone right before sleep, or Your text the second you land?
  25. You cheer loudest when no one else claps, or You are first to say well done?
  26. You say my name differently when it is just us, or You have a laugh that is only for me?
  27. Hearing you defend me to someone else, or Hearing you brag about me to someone else?
  28. Your handwriting on a birthday card, or Your voice on an old voicemail?
  29. A ticket stub from our first film, or A pressed flower from a first date?
  30. A playlist you made for my mood, or A photo of us you keep in your wallet?
  31. My hoodie living in your drawer, or Your jacket living on my chair?
  32. A note left on the fridge, or A note tucked into my bag?
  33. A love letter, all crossed out mistakes, or A perfect one, typed and printed?
  34. The mug you always give me, or The side of the bed that became mine?
  35. A photo booth strip on the wall, or A boarding pass kept in a drawer?
  36. You still have the receipt from our first date, or You still have the napkin I drew on?
  37. The song that was playing when we met, or The song we made ours on purpose?
  38. A drawing I did badly, framed anyway, or A photo I hate, framed anyway?
  39. A jumper that smells like you, or A pillow that smells like you?
  40. You make the coffee before I am up, or You let me wake up slowly?
  41. The last thing you say before sleep, or The first thing you say waking up?
  42. You check the locks before bed, or You check on me before bed?
  43. Falling asleep mid conversation, or Waking up mid conversation?
  44. You steal the covers and I let you, or I steal the covers and you let me?
  45. A grumpy good morning, or A sleepy goodnight?
  46. Ten more minutes, every single morning, or Already up before the alarm goes off?
  47. Brushing teeth side by side, saying nothing, or Talking to me through the bathroom door?
  48. You warm my side of the bed first, or You warm my hands between yours?
  49. A sleepy hum instead of words, or A mumbled I love you, half asleep?
  50. You check my phone is charging, for me, or You set an extra alarm so I am not late?
  51. You order for me without asking, or You always ask, even though you already know?
  52. You eat the crust so I do not have to, or You leave me the last piece, unasked?
  53. You steal chips off my plate, or You order your own and slide me half anyway?
  54. You do the dishes so I do not have to, or You keep me company while I do them?
  55. You remember I do not like coriander, or You remember exactly how I take my tea?
  56. You fold the washing your way, or You let me fold it badly and say nothing?
  57. You always let me pick the film, or You always know what I actually want to watch?
  58. You carry the heavy bags, unasked, or You carry my bag so I can hold your hand?
  59. You reheat my coffee without complaining, or You just make me a fresh one?
  60. You save me the good biscuits, or You wait for me at the door?

Cheeky

A little more tension in every pair. Still safe for the dinner table.

  1. My camera roll, fully unlocked, or My browser tabs, fully unlocked?
  2. Your ex texts happy birthday, or My ex texts happy birthday?
  3. You, describing our date to your mum, or You, describing it to your best mate?
  4. Your ick about me, out loud, or Mine about you, out loud?
  5. You, running late, always, or Me, dramatic about it, always?
  6. Hold my hand in front of your parents, or Hold my hand in front of strangers?
  7. Our texts, read aloud at the wedding, or Our search history, read aloud?
  8. A whole day, no phones, just us, or A whole day, I plan everything?
  9. Winning the argument, gloating about it, or Losing it, sulking about it?
  10. Text your mum we eloped, as a joke, or Post it online, as a joke?
  11. What you noticed about me first, or What I noticed about you first?
  12. Morning me, grumpy and honest, or Night me, chatty and dramatic?
  13. A surprise, planned on a tiny budget, or One planned with absolutely no limit?
  14. Tipsy and honest, or Tipsy and clingy?
  15. Telling the waiter it is your birthday, lying, or Same lie, told about me?
  16. Old chats with my ex, read aloud, or Chats with my mates, read aloud?
  17. Your ex, uninvited, at the wedding, or My ex, uninvited, at the wedding?
  18. My mum picks your outfit, or Your mum picks mine?
  19. The lie you told me on date one, or The lie I told you?
  20. The blanket, entirely yours by 2am, or The good pillow, entirely mine?
  21. A kiss at school pickup, or A kiss at the family barbecue?
  22. Your mum finds our messages, or My mum finds our messages?
  23. Your favourite meal, cooked badly by me, or Your favourite meal, ordered perfectly?
  24. Beating me at a game, rubbing it in, or Letting me win, badly disguised?
  25. Any photo of you, my choice of caption, or Any photo of me, your choice?
  26. The moment you got nervous around me, or The moment I stopped being smooth?
  27. Woken up with kisses, or Woken up with coffee?
  28. The gift I hinted at loudly, or The one I never mentioned at all?
  29. A slow dance, exes watching, or Skipping the party altogether?
  30. Letting you think you won, or Letting me think I won?
  31. My screen time, exposed, or My bank balance, exposed?
  32. Running into your ex at dinner, or Running into mine at dinner?
  33. Your dad, giving me the talk again, or My dad, giving you the talk?
  34. Who you liked before me, or Who liked me before you?
  35. Dishes soaking for a day, or Caps left off everything?
  36. Babe, in front of your boss, or Babe, in front of my mum?
  37. Caught mid argument, by your boss, or Caught mid kiss, by mine?
  38. Our first date, on a loop, or Our first kiss, on a loop?
  39. Being right, and never letting it go, or Being wrong, and never admitting it?
  40. My impression of you, to your face, or Your impression of me, to my mum?
  41. Lines you practised before texting me, or Lines that never made it out?
  42. Sleep talking, recorded as evidence, or Snoring, recorded as evidence?
  43. Splitting the bill to the cent, or Covering it, never mentioning it again?
  44. Our song, badly and loud, at karaoke, or Our song, as a slow dance instead?
  45. Your side of the counter, taken over, or My side, taken over?
  46. Who I stalk online, or Who stalks me online?
  47. You, still following your ex, or Your ex, still following you?
  48. Our texts, shown to your mum, or Our photos, shown to your mum?
  49. The petty thing that annoys you about me, or The petty thing I will never admit?
  50. You, hogging the aircon remote, or Me, hogging the good pillow?
  51. A slow dance in the grocery aisle, or A slow dance at someone else's wedding?
  52. Our first date story, exaggerated forever, or Our worst fight, retold forever?
  53. A love letter, every single morning, or A compliment, every single hour?
  54. A race, actually trying, or A race, letting me win?
  55. Three questions, brutal honesty, or Zero questions, just guess?
  56. You stalked my socials before we spoke, or I stalked yours right back?
  57. Quiet cuddles all morning, or Talking all night, no sleep?
  58. Spoiled in public, or Spoiled in private?
  59. Jealous when someone flirts with me, or Smug when I get jealous?
  60. Finishing your sentence wrong, on purpose, or Correcting me, loudly, every time?

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This or That in we2gether hides each answer until you have both replied, keeps score, and draws from the full deck of 644. Free, in the browser, nothing to install.

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Questions people ask

How do you play This or That as a couple?
Read the two options, both pick one at the same time, then compare. Playing it in we2gether hides each pick until you have both answered and scores how often you agree.
Is there a spicy version?
Yes. we2gether has a third tier, spicy, that only appears in couple mode and is never shown on this page.

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